Posted on | September 9, 2011 | No Comments
This week on Love FAQ, we talk hinkydinks and elvish battle poetry:
You’re married, not dead. There’s nothing wrong with crushes, and it’s totally normal to get a little hinkydink in your pants now and then for someone who isn’t your husband – especially someone as easy to fantasize about as your long-term bestie. You might as well accept that it will happen, and stop beating yourself up over it.
Posted on | September 2, 2011 | Comments Off on Love FAQ: When a Woman Loves a Woman, It’s Really Not About Your Penis
Friday means a new Love FAQ up at The Escapist, and I gotta say, this week’s is one of my new favorites. All three emails struck a chord as soon as I read them, from a woman who just won’t stop watching Star Trek: Voyager (what? I CAN QUIT DRAGON AGE ANY TIME I WANT YOU GUYS) to a guy whose ex ditched him to play for the other team:
If you’re that hurt, don’t even bother attempting to remain her friend. You aren’t somehow better or more mature as a person if you can stomach a conversation with someone whose thighs were once wrapped around your head. Staying friends with exes is overrated: It works for some people, but not for most, and it’s not like you get an Xbox Achievement either way.
Check it out: “When a Woman Loves a Woman, It’s Really Not About Your Penis“
Posted on | August 26, 2011 | Comments Off on Love FAQ: All Your Base Are Belong To Mom
On this week’s Love FAQ, I discuss rampaging rhinos, douche-y fiancés and why even a rat-infested shithole is better than living with Mom:
So what if you didn’t land that fancy job you wanted straight out of college, and now you’re forced to flip burgers or bag groceries and barely make minimum wage? That’s why man invented roommates – and slum lords. If Peter Parker can make it work, so can you. (Seriously, do you know what a freelance photographer makes? Spiderman basically lived on ramen and stolen Sweet ‘N Low packets.)
Check it out! All Your Base Are Belong To Mom
Posted on | August 19, 2011 | Comments Off on Love FAQ: Catching Up Is Hard To Do
I realize I’ve been remiss on posting the last couple of Love FAQs to my website — life’s been a little busy. But it’s never too late for a Love FAQ! Catch up on the back issues below:
“Don’t Take It Personally, Babe, It Just Ain’t Your Story”
In which I counsel the one the soldier leaves behind, and a best man making goo-goo eyes at the maid of honor
“How to Find the Right Player Two — And When Not To”
A trans girl wonders where her geeks at, and I caution that sometimes, the right way to go about love isn’t to go about it at all.
And today’s installment:
“With This Plasma Rifle, I Thee Wed”
A bride seeks ideas on how to gamify her wedding, while a recluse learns a little more about the kilogram than she bargained for.
Posted on | July 22, 2011 | Comments Off on Love FAQ: You Can Lead a Horse to Water (But You Can’t Make It Hook Itself Up to a Car Battery)
Another Friday, another Love FAQ! This time, we go over the importance of homebrewing confidence, why sex isn’t as much of a stumbling block as faith, and how to find a Christian switch in a haystack. In Jesus’s name, amen.
From the article:
Don’t give up. You’ll find someone; it just might take a while. Kinky Christians do exist – obviously – and you of all people should know that you can’t judge a book just because Jesus is on the cover.
Posted on | July 15, 2011 | Comments Off on Love FAQ #4: Your (Fat) Princess Is In Another Castle
Another Friday, another Love FAQ. Today, we talk age of consent and luscious larger ladies. I anticipate this one will be quite contentious indeed.
Check it out!
Posted on | July 13, 2011 | Comments Off on GWJ Conference Call Ep. 248: Romance & Videogames
It’s been awhile since I’ve been on the GWJ Conference Call — a bevy of personal crises and suckitude has kept me from being able to record — but I’m back, baby.
This week, I join Julian Murdoch, Allen Cook, and the infinitely fascinating Roger Travis, U. Conn classics professor and Director of the Video Games and Human Values Initiative to talk about one of my favorite subjects, the portrayal of sex and romance in videogames. We talk everything from gay cowboys to Cloud and Aeris to (of course) #naughtyhawkethoughts.
So go check out show.
Posted on | July 8, 2011 | Comments Off on Putting the Gay in Games: The Industry’s Changing Attitudes on Sexuality
Two posts in one day! I know, I spoil you.
I have a new feature up today at Gamespy.com, “Putting the Gay in Games: The Industry’s Evolving Attitudes Toward Sexuality“.
The feature — nearly NINE MONTHS in the making — covers the gaming community and industry’s recent attempts to accommodate LGBT gamers, with varying success. I talked to former Maxis dev Jeb Havens, Denis Farr of Gay Gamer, and BioWare’s David Gaider, all of whom had terribly insightful things to say about player choice, privilege of the majority and Anders/Hawke slashfiction that I wish I’d come up with first.
Here’s a taste:
Compared to the increasing prevalence of LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender) characters and storylines in other media — from same-sex prom dates on Glee to gay headmasters in Harry Potter — video games remain relatively stuck in the Dark Ages. What little LGBT content does make it into AAA titles often reflects stereotypes and attitudes that would’ve seemed quaint even under the 1930s Film Code (even William Hays would roll his eyes at Duke Nukem Forever’s not-so-clever cigarette brand, “FAGGS”).
“On one hand, it’s justifiable to say that these are games, and not platforms for social causes,” says David Gaider, senior writer at BioWare and lead writer of the Dragon Age series. But, he adds, “being entertainment doesn’t mean you’re absent of responsibility for the message you put out there.”
Still, as the average gamer grows older and the definition of “gamer” changes, we’re starting to see developers experiment with LGBT content in new and more interesting ways. The truth is, games have never been gayer than they are now.
Check it out here: Putting the Gay in Games: The Industry’s Evolving Attitudes Toward Sexuality.
Posted on | July 8, 2011 | Comments Off on Love FAQ #3: Don’t Stick It in the Crazy
Another Friday, and you know what that means: Another Love FAQ up at The Escapist!
This week’s column is titled, appropriately enough, “Don’t Stick it in the Crazy“. I give you a free sample:
Dear The Loneliest Jedi,
IT’S A TRAP. For the love of Admiral Ackbar, run as fast and as far as you can.
She needs to figure out this on her own. Stay out of it. I don’t care how many compliments she gives you, or how many “slices” of “pizza” she wiggles under your nose, don’t get involved with this human black hole of crazy, because there’s simply no escaping her event horizon.
Go check it out now!
Posted on | July 1, 2011 | Comments Off on Love FAQ #2: The Unbearable Lightness of Licking Lampposts
On this week’s Love FAQ, I tell you how online dating is like hitch-hiking, why sex isn’t a leaderboard, and why gay geeks ought to be more like Honey Badger:
And yes, that is a shameless Dragon Age reference. So sue me. #teamAlistairkeep looking »